They’re everywhere and unavoidable. They’re like flies that can’t be swatted away, or a pimple that can’t be popped. They look different to everyone, and they act different around different people, but they all have one common trait. Who are these people? In one word, they are simply, the annoyers.
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How To Spot One
First, a feeling arouses inside. It is quite distinctive, and it’s almost the immediate compulsion to choke someone. That’s the first portent of annoyance. Then, a noise follows. It’s a high-pitched, unleveled voice that internally makes people cringe. It’s getting closer every second, and hearts start to skip beats. This is normally when, following hugs and shy hellos, I internally cry. I do this because I know an annoying person is about to approach me. As soon as this person opens their mouth, I can sense myself disagreeing with their opinions, and then I immediately don’t want to be around them anymore. If someone is unnecessarily making my life harder, that’s when I’ll sense the annoying.
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How To Get out of the Situation
In order to begin the extraction process, I first need to make small talk. Talking to this annoying person is inevitable, but at the very least I can come up with an escape plan. While I’m smiling and talking about the weather, I look for the nearest exit. At this point, I’ll try to talk until the conversation runs out. If the conversation never seems to run out because a particular annoying person won’t leave me alone, I’ll say something like, “Oh that’s great. It was good talking to you, but I have to go now!” I don’t do this to be rude. I just need to not make my internal boiling pot overflow.
When It's Not Possible to Leave
Sometimes, I’ll be doing a compulsory thing. This will be similar to me attending my classes, going on a field trip, riding the bus, etc. Even if I wanted to, there is no reason I should miss these things. Obviously, there will be people who get on my nerves and annoy me. Sometimes I can’t escape them. There isn’t always away to leave and do things by myself. In this situation, I will find a place in my heart that is open. I will try to put this annoying person/these annoying people in the open space of my heart. I will attempt to understand, sympathetic, and joyful. I will try to avoid these people as much as I can, but when they are unavoidable I will do my best to make the best of the situation.
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In the End
We all want to be loved, and I understand that, but sometimes we can’t all be loved. We can all, however, be respectful even when someone is annoying us, because that’s the way it should be. If I were annoying someone, I would at least want him or her to respect me by not outright calling me annoying. There is no way to change my personality; people have different appeals and tastes that I don’t want to take on. Annoying people are different to everyone. The best day to deal with them is with kindness and intelligence.